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Let the wild rumpus start

I have no rumpus to speak of, unless we’re referring to my tush.  That bit has gotten gargantuan enough that it may have graduated from rump to rumpus for sure.

But still, no rumpus in the traditional sense of the word.

With no debacle or drama, I’ve lost some motivation for writing.  But when I think of all the little things that have happened in the past month or so, they rather add up to something.

Work has gotten more and more abysmal, with seemingly no hope for improvement.  The actual work there is to do is unforgivably boring and tedious.  Just now, I had to respond to someone whose question was “I tried to upgrade my software, but when I open it again, it’s the same version.”  And that’s it.  So I have to write back and basically say “What do you mean you tried to upgrade?  What did you DO?”
My despair about my working day goes in cycles varying from Bored Numb Zombie to Scathing Bitter Gremlin.  Whatever part of the cycle it may be, there is sure to be a mythical creature involved.

I think I have a good feeling for what it I would like to be doing.  I had some hope that I’d be able to do it here, but it’s not looking so good.  To combat this stagnation, I’ve signed myself up for classes in Project Management that should ultimately end in certification.  But that’s a year’s goal away from now.  We’ll see.  Class #1 was this past Wednesday, though, and so far so good.

Meanwhile, the brother was laid off, which was a constant possibility considering he wasn’t actually doing any work for six months.  But it finally happened.  Just in time for Nicole to have quit her job to stay at home with Max.  So very quickly, they went from being the family that hangs out at home together 24/7 but getting paid to do it, to being the family that stays at home together 24/7 and being paid the same amount that any of the rest of us would be for a lotta rumpus sitting at home.

Max, however, is unphased and has been exploring the fine art of walking.

I am in love with this song:

and this one:

And! I’m going to England on Sunday!  Via first class!  I will be meeting David’s parents and his niece, Elizabeth.  And also going to England!

That’s as far as today’s motivation took me.  Until next time, then…

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366 Days

Yesterday was the one year anniversary of our first date.

While I wax poetic on how lucky I am and how happy I’ve been, the fellow is off in Yosemite for a long weekend and I’m actually feeling rather mournful. I miss him.

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The 2 People I’ve Known for 30 Years

My brothers are 30 years old today. My little brothers are 30, not 8.

The first Christmas with 3

The first Christmas with 3

Of those 30 years, I probably hated them for at least 10 and couldn’t be bothered for another 4. It’s kind of amazing that we now exist in an era in which I rather like being with them.
I don’t remember when they came home from the hospital (I was 18 months old) but legend has it that I started sucking my thumb on that day.
I probably never completely got over feeling jealous and out of place. But that wasn’t their fault. And they are the only people in the whole world who know what my growing-up was. I bet we don’t fully understand the grown-ups of each other that we are now, but there’s something to knowing one another’s pasts.

We’re not a family who says “I love you.” So I won’t do any of that here. But I’m happy to have them around. I’m glad that we can speak to one another, and in my family, I feel like that’s saying something, and I think we’re ok with saying that, at least.

Picture 2 It’s been years since we’ve spent any of our brithdays together, but as chance would have it, I’ll be seeing them both today. Buying presents for boys is never the easiest. Shopping for my brothers, in particular, seems to be especially daunting. But I wised up and went searching for T-shirts on Threadless. I found this one, which I think is quite clever. Quite a few years ago, the boys came out to visit and we went to a Magritte show at the SF MOMA, so we saw the real “This is not a pipe” together. Hopefully, they’ll dig.

Happy birthday, boys.

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Making an effort to write something

I make occasional generic noises about wanting to be a writer, and really, I actually do!  But I don’t write.  I try to do a bit of blog writing here and there, but I know mostly it’s rather crappy and I’m jusr writing something for the sake of writing something.

So I asked a girl from work about doing a writing club.  Even though I think it might be torment.  I suggested that we should write a short story from our childhood.  We should be meeting in half an hour and this is what I wrote in the past 2 hours.

In Mrs Brewington’s second grade class, every child was given a badge for completing your work on time if you finished before lunch.  After lunch you had recess and art, and those didn’t count towards finishing anything, other than the school day.

The badge was made from construction paper with mimeographed purple outlines.  It always said “I finished my work on time today!” in the middle.  Last week there had been a blue ice cream cone, a red strawberry, a brown puppy, a pink shoe, and a purple flower.  Miss Anne used a straight pin to attach the badge to the front of your shirt.  You had to be careful not to move your arms around your chest so that you wouldn’t get stabbed.

Every day, Meg took her badge and put it in her Capezio ballet shoebox.  It was a black box with a million little white stars on it.  Systematically, she poked a whole through the center of each star on the box using one of the straight pins.  And she filled the box with badges.

On Tuesday, Mrs Brewington told the class that they would be making books. They spent the entire day sewing together a stack of pages and then gluing that in to a cardboard cover.  Then they got to pick out a bit of wallpaper sample to decorate the book’s cover.   Meg chose a blue wallpaper with a white bamboo pattern.  It took the whole day to complete the construction of the books, but Meg finished before lunch and Miss Anne pinned a yellow sun on to her favorite shirt.

The next day, the assignment for the class was to fill the pages of their books with a story.   The story could be illustrated, or just words, or whatever you would like it to be.  Meg wrote a story called “The Lone Stag” about a loner deer.  He was quite content to cavort about the woods associating with no other creature, as he was quite solitary, but in a noble way.

One day he meets a very pretty doe in the woods and she introduces a new longing to the stag, who decides that it might be nice to spend more time with the doe, and then they get married.

Meg filled the book with lots of crayon drawings of the stag in his forest, with many vines twirling about in the trees.  She especially liked the last picture of the doe and the stag together, with the stags complicated horns silhouetted against the setting sun.

The rest of the story was about the adventures that they doe and the stag had together after they got married.  But it was time for lunch and she had not finished her book, even though most everyone else had.  She was not getting a badge.  Miss Anne patted her on the head, but she did not pin the purple mushroom to Meg’s shirt.

Meg walked in the single file line with the rest of her class down the hallway to the lunchroom.  Her eyes were stinging and her breath was coming in choppy little bursts like it when you are trying very hard to not cry.  But she couldn’t stop thinking about the badge that she didn’t get and the shame that she hadn’t finished her work on time today.

She slunk quietly over to an empty table in the corner of the cafeteria and put down her Holly Hobby lunchbox.  She opened it and looked inside and then couldn’t hold back the gulps any more.  She put her head down on her folded arms on the table and just cried.  It was just so unfair!  When you work so hard on something, you shouldn’t be finished for taking a bit longer!  Her story had at least 20 more pages than any one else’s book.

And then someone sat down next to her at the table.  She looked up.  It was Charro.  Charro Ward was a boy in her class and he never finished his work on time.  Not once.  Mrs Brewington was always saying things like “Charro Ward!  You are the laziest boy I ever saw!” outloud in front of the class about him.  Once she whacked him across the knuckles with a ruler when he couldn’t read the word ‘elephant’ from a worksheet.  He rode the same bus, but his stop was after hers, so Meg didn’t know where he lived.  Sometimes he wore clothes to school that had belonged to her brothers.  That was funny to see.  Her mother had brought in a big bag of clothes to donate to kids who didn’t have enough clothes.  Meg and Charro were two grades ahead of her brothers, so it didn’t make sense that their clothes would fit him.

Meg looked at Charro.  He was ugly, with googly eyes and he smelled.  He had white crust in the corners of his mouth, like too much spit had dried there.  Meg was shuddering from the exertion of her crying and she wiped her nose on the back of her hand.

Charro patted her hand.  “It’s ok.  It’s ok to not finish.  It happens to me every day.”

Meg’s eyes started to well up again.  She pursed her lips together tightly and nodded, looking down at her hands.  Charro patted her hand again and then he stood up.

“Don’t worry,” he said and he left.

The next day, Meg did finish her work on time today, and she got an orange goldfish badge.  But for the rest of the year, there were 4 other days that she didn’t finish and she didn’t get a badge.  And she didn’t cry, either.

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Alex & Emiliana

IMG_1774_1622Alex and Emiliana were married on Saturday at the Berkeley Rose Garden.  Emiliana was an old friend from The Princeton Review, the early years.  She was often gone for long stretches of time, going to school in Philadelphia, traveling, visitng family in South America.  But we became good friends.

I will never forget how she told me one day, at a concert at the Greek Theater “You’re not happy.  You should break up with Bob.”  In the rules of what’s allowed between friends, there’s definitely a chapter about being supportive of half-assed relationships.  Telling me that I should get out of it was a ballsy thing to do.  It took me a little while, but I finally did it.  And I thank her for planting that seed.

Evidently, I get some credit for putting Alex and Emiliana together, as each of them mentioned it several times that night.  Apparently, I finagled Alex, who was teaching SAT for me, to drive another local teacher with him on the job.  My intentions were decidely un-matchmaking, but rather came from a place of desperation.  About 95% of my job at The Princeton Review was spent trying to achieve the impossible and in doing so, coercion played heavily.  So, by having Alex drive another teacher, I now how 2 teachers out at an offsite location that required a car.  He says that he said he woudl do it if it was a cute girl.  I probably would have liked and told him it was the cutest girl ever, even it was that really fat guy with bad skin.  Luckily, it was Emiliana, who is very cute indeed.

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Later, the naggy hens of the office manipulated Emiliana into bringing Alex to the office Christmas Party.  And it all ran a rather nice course from there.

I have such a huge love for both of them, nothing could please me more than to see them happily together.  Alex and Emiliana are such excellent, good natured, wonderful people.  It adds incredible richness to my own life to think of knowing them, and I’m sure that the joy they will continue to bring to each other will last for a very lovely lifetime.

The wedding was absolutely beautiful.  Emiliana looked like a South American movie star from the 1940’s.  The rose garden was a glorious splendor.  The ceremony itself was quite brief and I might have liked to have heard a bit more from them, but knowing them, I’m sure they were both quite nervous and happy to not have to say much of anything.  The reception was wonderful, at Dona Tomas, a restaurant that I had been to with Emiliana and her mom before.  The outdoor courtyard was just a perfect spot and it was a warm enough night that it was quite comfortable into the evening.  They couldn’t have had a nice day and there aren’t people who deserved it to be so perfect as they do.

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Wishing the lyrics to “My Obsession” were more amusing

picture-3I have become obsessed with Twitter.
It’s not an entirely new obsession.  My first tweet was on July 30, 2007 and since then, I’ve updated 476 times.

But a few days, someone with 600+ followers tweeted a message about following me and my followers have since doubled.  And a very few tweets have been favrd by someone other than Allib.

Because of this, I’ve started harboring delusions of grandeur, if grandeur could possibly mean Twittery success.  And that supposes that you can somehow achieve Twittery success.  But whatever it is, I feel fever pitched in my pursuit of churning out up to 140 more characters of something amusing.

When I was in New York, a friend there was griping about how dumb and pointless Facebook and Twitter are, and she challenged me to explain why I liked Twitter.  I said that since I couldn’t write a novel, I got a great deal of satisfaction in knowing that I could write one, just one, nice sentence.  She couldn’t argue that really, but couldn’t to sniff about how she’d never do them.

So I do love how Twitter lets me write a little tiny bit in a non-intimdiating way.  And I love how it feels a little competitive.  Like the Twitter gods are goading “how good can you write it?  just 140 characters?  bring it!”  And I love having something that updates so frequently.  Better than any good conversationalist, I can ask Twitter to “Tell me more!” and it will.  And, I admit it.  I love having a tweet Favrd.  Oh, the indulgent joy it brings me!  Like a pat on the had, but with a little yellow star to boot!

And thus, I am reduced to constant stalking and plotting.  I try to Favr other people in the hopes that it will engender like mindedness.  I search for new people to follow who might follow me back.  I am manic about checking Favrd.com and Favotter and in a constant state of puzzle as to why the two don’t match.

Sweet David watches all with amusement and warns “don’t try to be funny.  It isn’t funny.”

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Reason #712

Watching my boyfriend become the room mate of a cat has been amusing and endearing.

Maple, like all cats, is an odd little creature.  She plays fetch.  She yowls incessently.  She sneaks into the bathtub to sit in it when it’s wet.  And she likes to lick stuff.  Anything smooth and flat and quite often, people skin.

She likes to come sit on us in bed, perching attentively on hip or on David’s chest.  Quite cutely, sometimes she’ll reach out a paw to touch one of our faces.

And David, my sweet sweet sweet boy, he will take a hand out from underneath the covers just to give it to Maple to start licking and nipping on.  That’s reason number seven hundred and twelve that I love him.

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Good Friday

Downtown SF

I sat on some steps in the sun, eating frozen yogurt with strawberries, and reading Eat Pray Love.  It was an alright half an hour to be off the clock.

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Happiness is not something ready made, it comes from your own action.

Dalai Lama

Today is the 50th anniversary of the dalai lama’s exhile from Tibet in Dharamshala, India.

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Cohabitator

Because he basically lived at my apartment, we made the decision a while back that David would move in with me. We picked February 1 as the official date, and then we pretty much did nothing about it.  So that his old apartment still had a bunch of stuff in it and he felt obligated to pay his room mate there for the month’s rent.

After we conceded that we really needed to take a weekend off of Tahoe-ing to make this happen, we set a new deadline for the official move-out/move-in as March 1.  And so, I watched him sort through lots of stuff, determining what could be thrown away and what should be relegated to one of his various hiking backpacks to bring over.  Said backpacks are now in piles throughout the apartment, mingling happily with the piles of totes-o-crap that I collected from my towed away car on Sunday.  There is a certain charm rendered by a pile, at least in my apartment, anyway.

I keep saying “You’re my room mate!” to David.  And it feels funny.  Grown-up.  Even though I’ve already done this part.  But I amazed that it is real.  That he wants to live with me and my bonkers cat.  (Speaking of which, observations of David and Maple could, and maybe will, be a whole separate post.)  I get a person who makes decisions about what to eat for dinner.  And puts up shelves.  With a drill(!) no less.  A person who will pair my socks.  A person who will even go looking around in all the places that I might be inclined to discard socks, when it is time to do laundry.  I get to live with a person who will always want to sneak  onto my side of the bed, no matter how big that bed might be.

P.S. He also wipes the fogged-up bathroom mirrors with toilet paper, the lintiest material known to mankind.

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